Erotica Meme - Of Course I Have To Do It

[teddy_radiator]

As someone who started writing erotic fiction, I just had to copy this from laurielove, who is such a great writer, and a very encouraging LJ friend:

Thanks to willowfaerie2 and libertyelyot for this.

Erotica meme ...

1. Do you consider 'bodice ripper' romance novels erotica?

When I was young, I used to read my mother's novels. She liked a bit of spice - it probably was a little inappropriate for someone my age, but ...

2. Do you dislike, tolerate, or enjoy explicit sex in fiction or art?

If it is well written, in context, in character and exciting and anticipated, then I love it. I have read some things that literally made me want to run to my Number 14.

In art – If it's well done, hell yeah. I'm an amazingly visual person. Almost as much as a typical bloke.

3. What is the maximum rating that you will read?

Anything goes, except some warnings. There are some things that squick me right out.

4. Does this vary depending on the medium or author?

No. I'm a pervert and love perverted things.

5. If you are an author, is the maximum rating for what you write different from what you read?

No. I read it and write it.

Personal Preferences


6. If it wasn't warned for, and you came across an explicit sex scene, would you skip past it as fast as possible, skim through it, or read it?

It depends if it is slash, which, as a rule, is a turn off. I have read some that was intriguing, but on the whole ignore it. There are some Het pairings that gross me out a little as well.

7. Do you enjoy BDSM scenes?

Very much so. It is the lifestyle I live - I like to read what I live. if it's badly written, or it's obvious the person writing doesn't have a clue, I just stop reading the fic altogether. However, I get the impression that most people who write it have some knowledge of it.

8. What about slave-fic?

I've read a few that were hawt, but most of the time writers get a little extreme in their cruelty. I think there is a fine line between sexy and abuse.

9. Do you prefer het, slash, femslash, or multiples?

I prefer het exclusively. I have written three-ways, but they are always het and that's my preference. Slash just doesn't grease the wheels. I can entertain a little femslash sometimes, but I prefer to watch femslash porn instead of read it. Gay porn is not my thing at all, and it really surprises me the amount of it in fanfic now.

10. What is your favorite pairing (or multiple).

I almost exclusively writer HG/SS. I have enjoyed the occasional MM/SS, but I'm not really into other pairings. I think because the first fanfic I ever read was HG/SS, and it stuck with me. I am a voice slut and a Snapewhore, and that's what I will exclusively write. I can't see Severus as a gay man, and any fic I read with him having it on with Harry or Lucius or Draco or Lupin or Sirius just squicks the hell out of me. The only slash pairing I've ever read with Severus that remotely turned me on was with Mr. Filch.

11. In a sex scene, what turns you on?

Dirty talk done well, lyrical description, context, emotional committment, total abandon.

12. What ruins the mood for you?

Clumsy or purile writing, obviously gratuitous, when the writer is obviously uncomfortable writing it and it shows.

13. What do you wish writers would include more often in sex scenes?

Grace and style; the feeling that the characters are completely into what they are doing and that they want their partner to enjoy it. The feeling that the Dominant partner is just as abandoned as the submissive partner, and I have to agree with Laurie, rich description of what is happenning, what they are feeling what they are saying. Did I mention I love sex talk?

14. What is your biggest squick? The one thing that makes you exit a story and never go back.

A writer who hasn't even bothered to think about how a character would speak or act. A writer who has no clue that Americanisms are jarring in HP fanfic (Yes, I know I have the occasional lapse but that's why I beg for betas). Badly written sex. Lack of understanding of how the body responds; cruelty, gratuitous rape, especially slash. I hate to see abuse disguised as S&M or, even worse, D/s. I don't like people misusing the attitudes of this lifestyle in the guise of molestation. Anything that sounds childish or infantile, or unintentional coarseness. I like the grace of eroticism; I don't like the gauche writing of someone stumbling though a gratuitous sex chapter. There are times when I may not know the difference!

Vocabulary: For each group of words, choose the one you prefer.

15. abdomen, abs, stomach, belly, tummy

I love the vulnerability of belly, but I will use aabdomen and stomach.  Tummy, if used in an appropriate context. ABS? I'm not writing a freakin' exercise manual.

16. ass, butt, behind, rear end, derriere

Bum. Bottom, Backside. Arse. These are the words I use. Ass isn't British unless we're talking about a donkey. I have used bumcheeks, globes, and rump.

17. anus, asshole, hole, entrance.

I have no problem with anus. I have used rectum, fundament, entrance, puckered hole. I find the area very vulnerable, and the wording should be delicate. I can get a little more coarse with the male anus, but still I think it's an area that needs to be treated with gentleness.

18. penis, cock, dick, manhood, member.

Cock is my go-to word. I have also used shaft, member and manhood. Dick and prick if I'm trying to convey something a little more sordid or coarse. If I want someone to sound a little dirty, I'll use prick or dick to make it a little edgy. I will use penis sometimes, if I'm getting a little repetitive. I love cocks. I think they are beautiful.

19. testicles, balls, nuts, jewels

I prefer balls. It's a little tawdry, but I like using it - it makes me feel dirty. I have also used sac or scrotum. I don't mind either.

20. vagina, cunt, pussy, entrance

Although the Hubs hates the word cunt, I prefer it. Pussy I use if I want to sound a little raunchy - don't know why. I have used entrance, channel, sex, but the one I hate is quim. It just sounds both creepy and goofy to me. It's the only thing about FTPMA I don't like. I have to be pretty desperate to use quim.

21. breasts, boobs, tits/titties, the girls

Breasts, nipples. If I want to be a little dirty, I'll use tits and titties, especially with older men. I have also used nubs, buds and tips, especially in a very intimate, dirty talking session.

22. have sex, fuck, screw, take, make love

Sex, fuck, take, screw. Yep all in the TR lexicon. I do have characters make love, when they are in love. Fuck is not a dirty word to me. It's vibrant, alive and a word of guts and precision. It sounds like what it is. On the right lips, it can be sheer poetry.

Truth or Dare

23. Fanfic: Do any of your family or RL friends know that you read or write fanfic?

Several. I've been amazed how interested they are. Even my stepchildren (19 and 21) and my mother knows it. They seem pretty fine with it. The Hubs is one of my betas, but he enjoys my original erotic fiction better than the fanfic.

24. Erotica: Do any of them know you read or write sex scenes?

Yes, several. People know how I am. They accept me for the most part. The ones who don't I don't have time for. Most of my friends think it's a hoot, and several have read it. The best compliment I ever got was from my original fic beta, who took a copy of my book and left it at her mother and grandmother's house. She got a call later that week with both of them wanting a copy of it!


Whew! That took longer than I'd anticipated. Now I gotta get back to the real smut. Sempra's birthday is in two days.

Comments

[mimimanderly.livejournal.com]

I'm glad that I'm not the only one who is squicked out by slash! If it rocks your boat, fine, there's nothing wrong with being gay, but it just does NOT do it for me -- that is not how I want to picture Severus, so I don't read it. Sometimes I feel like the only one who feels that way. I, too, was surprised by how prevalent slash is among female fans. I'm afraid I'm just scratching my head over that one.

But, as far as explicitness goes -- the more graphic, the better, I say, as long as it seems true to life and that they are REALLY enjoying it. I'm kind of like a guy that way; none of the pseudo-romantic fade-outs for me!

One thing that puzzles me about fanfic: warnings. Okay, you have a rating that tells you how graphic it is. Fine. But warnings? You don't have warnings when you are reading an actual book or watching a movie. I think that being warned about every little aspect of a story kind of spoils it. I mean, it's fiction. Get a helmet! /rant.

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Get a helmet - oh you DO make me just want to hug you till your ribs squeak.

Regarding slash - you are defo not the only one that feels that way. I can't see hetero men suddenly wanting to do the old uphill gardening.

I'm a very visual person, so I enjoy reading and visualising - but it has to be both of them enjoying it. Sometimes I have written the man as being in charge and putting his own pleasure aside to ensure that his partner is completely overcome but I still want him to not think of it as a total power trip.

Warnings are a bit of a cheat, but I'm sort of glad of them. I hate reading something and enjoying the UST and then some dude is playing hide the nightstick with another dude and I feel I've invested in something I really don't want.

And on the other hand, if a warning is 'explicit sexual content' or 'BDSM', then I'm so in there!!

[majorjune.livejournal.com]

Basically I'm pretty libertarian when it comes to sexual matters, whatever consenting adults want to do isn't my -- or the government's -- business.

That said, there's just some stuff that doesn't interest me to read/watch...I don't get the vapors over it, it just bores me. I would never dream to tell others not to read/watch, tho...

#1: No. "Bodice Rippers" are pieces of shit masquerading as "romance", but they're definitely not erotica. Try "A Spy In The House Of Love" by Anais Nin instead...

#2: I enjoy it if it is well-done; unfortunately too much of it is just an instruction manual of "Insert Part A into Part B..."

#5: Probably. I have no problem reading or watching explicit X-rated stuff, but I'll probably not write it. Nothing against writing it, I've never tried and I suspect that any attempt on my part would come off pretty lame. So I set the scene and lead the reader up to a certain point, where I then let their imaginations take over. But that's my writing style across the board, not just with sex...I leave a lot of stuff unstated and trust the reader to fill in their own blanks, even if what they fill in isn't exactly what I had in mind.

#9: Generally, both het, slash, and multiples. But only het when it comes to Potterverse, there just isn't a slash in that field that appeals to me.

#10: In Potterverse, only Snape with OFC...

#15: I think abdomen/abs is different from stomach/belly/tummy. The first refers to the general trunk area, while the later is specifically between the naval and genital area and refers to the organ of digestion. I would probably use all of the terms, depending on the age of the character and the circumstance in which they were speaking.

#16: again, any of the terms, depending on character and circumstance. In my fanfic, 9 y.o. Sev uses the term "arse" when speaking, the American kids use the term "ass". When it's my own author voice describing, say, someone falling onto their posterior, I'll usually use "butt" or "rear-end".

#17: anus or asshole

#18: penis, cock, dick...perhaps "prick"

#19: all 4 terms, again depending on character and circumstance

#20: I've never heard of the term "entrance" used in this aspect! LOL

#21: Never use the term "the girls"...

#22: "Take" to me implies rape, that the person being "taken" isn't willing. When I was a teenager, the term "make/made" was used, especially when dissing on someone: "Oh, you know how Robin's like -- she'll MAKE IT with any boy who asks!"..."Did you hear? Chuck made Sally last night under the bleachers!"

#23 & 24: Not applicable. ;-)

[laurielover1912.livejournal.com]

Great to read your very eloquent thoughts. Glad I'm not the only one who hates 'quim' - It is an old term, but I still can't stand it.

With you on the voice front all the way. Glad you liked my little rec ... ! And thanks for the very kind words about my writing on here. :-)

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

My pleasure, Laurie m'dear. It was actually rather cathartic and I learned a little more about myself!

[droxy.livejournal.com]

Glad to know self identified het fans. I answered this as well.

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

I just don't understand it, Droxy. The amount of female writers writing totally slash fiction just astounds me. I can't do it. I just can't see it, especially SS. I have never, nor can I ever truly picture him with Harry, Draco, Lucius, Lupin or Sirius. Just squicks the living flock out of me.

As you said, SS/Filch I can do - I think because I can see that rough, Northern side of Severus. He can be what he truly is with Filch - a white trash, poor, half-breed Manc gutter rat. He doesn't have to put on airs with Filch. It's the only slash I can read.

I still think Bloodcult writes Snape probably as close to the bone as you can get. I love tarting him up and all, but you can almost smell the fags and coffee breath on him when she writes. The dream sequence in one of the last chapters with the four of them is possibly one of the funniest, bleakest, snarkiest and sexiest descriptions I've ever read. What I would do to write as well as Bloodcult!

[droxy.livejournal.com]

I dont understand writing slash either. Maybe it's the challenge of it. But I compare that to guys watching femslash pr0n. Whodah thunk it? Eh? All those gals writing homoerotic fic is the equivalent of guys watching girl/girl. ;> To each their own tastes and fandoms.

Even the Snape Filch I do read doesn't have the graphic sex if any sex at all.

I need to finish 7 perposterous. =)

[sandlappershell.livejournal.com]

I am ok with slash as long as it is well written. I don't do Severus with any Weasley, Sirius, Remus, Albus, and certainly NOT Harry. It is frightening how many stories with one or more of those pairings there are!! I do prefer Severus and Hermione for sure. There are a few other pairings I will read - but, I just like SS/HG together. Somehow they just fit. Most of the slash that I have read has been pairings inside an SS/HG anyway, so it is usually Sirius and Remus or Draco and Harry - that sort of thing and most of the time it is just mentioned in passing.
I like - oh, what the hell - I LOVE BDSM stories if they are handled right. I don't dig cruelty for cruelty's sake - certainly not in a sexual situation, but a little pain never hurt nobody, I always say!! Personally, I think too many writers use D/s or M/s as an excuse for writing things to gross people out or just to shock them completely.

Neat quiz, that...interesting how you think you know yourself so well ;)

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Yes, I know exactly what you mean. Pain can be pleasurable, and if used with that aim. Pain for hurt is just wrong. There is a saying in the D/s world - "There is a world of difference between hurting and harming."

I said earlier I found this very cathartic - it gave me pause to realise the things I like and dislike and how I treat them in writing.

No, I just can't do slash - it just jars with me too much. I have written some pretty hot het 3-ways in my original stuff, and even though the original characters love each other, I just can't make them have sex - it just doesn't go with the characters' personalities.

A good BDSM story is great, but a bad one will just creep me out. There is one, an old one, that starts out so well, but just falls apart in the end, and it just ruined the whole story for me - and it was a long old thing to wade through just to have them fall apart in the end! But a good one, like FTPMA, which is, to me, the Flagship of BDSM and D/s fanfic, is almost perfect. It is sexy, lyrical, well-written and so compelling I have my own copy for bedside reading - very inspirational.

[sandlappershell.livejournal.com]

I liked FTPMA, too - the whole description of training and everything. Good BDSM stories are hard to find. Like you, I hate reading a story that is good only to have it end with my head on the desk. Drives me batty!! So, maybe I could get away with posting my story somewhere other than my LJ! I am sure it needs to be beta'd to death, though!
Whenever you get the chance...more chapters of your story would be devoured mostly delightedly!!

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

I will be happy to send you more!! Which was the last chapter I sent you??