SED - Day 02

[teddy_radiator]

A day that is getting off to a slow start, but the weather is lovely, and we need to run errands. The activity on LJ has been so inspirational - thank you to everyone who is embracing this idea. I love being a part of this amazing family of talented, creative people.

I'm on my second humungous cup of Chocolate chipotle flavoured coffee. It tastes better than it sounds, actually! LOL Yesterday we overdid it physically, and my old joints are letting me know about it. We had a busy work day, then all that bad news hit us between the eyes, but today seem so much brighter. TheHubs™ went to what was basically a fund raiser for the theatre last night. They always do one at the end of the season and invite the final cast to come (and provide free entertainment to the well-heeled snobs who pay $100 per ticket to eat micro food and bid ridiculous amounts of money on donated auction gifts), and he had been looking forward to it. He had bought a new suit and looked very smart. He had a good time, and I think it helped his peace of mind - everyone there was very kind and encouraging.

I told him basically he has to reconcile himself to the fact that he can't have it all. He either has to do theatre whenever he wants, or devote himself to a band full time. He can't do both. And that bothers him, because he loves doing both, and when he lived in the UK, he could. Apparently here that's not possible. Ah, well. Karma's a bitch, and these so-called friends of his have just woken her up.

Today is working on the house day. I'm going to start taping off the chimney breast in preparation to paint. TheHubs™ is debating between starting the flooring on the SteamLib or mowing the lawn - which is getting crazy out of hand. I just want to be doing something constructive to show some progress.

Thanks to you all for letting me rant and rave last night. You are my family, and I hate to dump on you like that. But I also know you understand and don't mind, and your support is felt down in my heart. I'd like to leave you with a meme I saw on Facebook today. It so sums up my life, and how I've lived it.

I'm starting to get really nervous about sending out query letters. They are so much more stressful than actually writing the books. I have decided since my story has such a British flavour that I will also seek out British agents as well. Hell, I'm going to get enough rejection letters to paper the SteamLib many times over. I might as well get international.

Comments

[arwitchywoman.livejournal.com]

Any chance he could go solo with the music? Then he could have theater and music without worrying about backstabbing.

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

He's a bassist. Not much call for a solo bassist. Besides, it's the group part about it he loves. He just loves being with a group of musicians making music.

[bonsaibetz.livejournal.com]

Don't forget that JK herself received a shitload of rejection letters for her first HP book, so remember that there are a lot of people who are absolutely blind, even when something brilliant is sitting right in front of them on their desk. So consider yourself in good company and that you're not alone.

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Thank you, babe. Query letters are so intimidating. I'm no good at summarising, so this is the toughest part for me. I'm just going to look at other successful ones and try to get mine close to the mark.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_hannelore/]

Good luck on the query letters!

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much! I'm going to give it my all.

[dragoon811.livejournal.com]

I can't believe what jerks those people are. I'm so sorry that your husband was treated that way - he deserves better and you are perfectly allowed to be angry on his behalf, and it's just fine for you to vent your feelings on LJ.

I hope that he is able to find a new group and that the other group at least does what's right by him in the end. :(

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Thank you, babe. That's why I love you all - you understand. He will be okay - he's a good man, and took it with a lot more grace than I did.

[dragoon811.livejournal.com]

You took it very gracefully, I think, all things considered!

[hbart.livejournal.com]

Teddy, I could write a page about how unfair things are, about how he shouldn't have to choose between two things he loves, about how I agree that doing something where you can see the progress and hard work is very satisfying, but I want to say something different. I love what you added at the end about your dream. See, I don't have one. Yeah, yeah, world peace and all of that, but I don't have a personal dream. I have a great husband and kids, a good job, plenty of friends, and I am very content with my life, but I haven't found my dream. That thing that I am so passionate about that it gets me out of bed every day, even if on a subconscious level. That one thing that I know deep within my bones that I am meant to accomplish. And that's okay. If it is meant to happen, I will stumble across it when I least expect it. But I just wonder what it feels like to have something that you want so badly, and to finally go for it and accomplish it. You'll have to let me know, okay? Because you will get your book published. I have no doubt that you will be rejected a million times, because that is just how it works, but I believe 100% that it will happen for you if you keep at it and don't get discouraged. I don't care if people want to call it God's plan, or fate, or destiny, or any other name, I truly believe that things are meant to happen in a very specific way for reasons usually unknown to us. So, long story short (yeah, I know), if it doesn't happen for months down the road, it isn't because you weren't good enough, it is because it wasn't supposed to happen yet. So keep a positive outlook, enjoy your days, and all will be well.

That said, get moving! I sort of NEED to read this book. :)

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Wow. Thank you. Thank you so much for your supporting and encouragement. I cannot thank you enough for cheering me on with such confidence. Your passionate declaration energised and recharged me, and made me feel like Wonder Woman. It has left me tingling from head to toe!

I believe in what I'm doing, and I believe it's good, and I'll keep trying to make this dream come true until it does. Thank you for being such an amazing friend. ♥ ♥

You know, for so long, I had no idea what my dream was, either. I just drifted along in the sea of life like a jellyfish, letting it take me where it would. I had dreams, but I did nothing about them but wish.

I am fundamentally a lazy person, and a fearful one - do you know what my greatest dream was? To find out what my greatest dream was. I wanted to know my life's purpose. When I realised what that was, it nearly took me to my knees. AFter that, dreaming didn't scare me anymore. Oh, I'm still afraid of failure, but I'm not afraid of dreaming anymore.

To be honest, I think you have an incredible gift. The gift of lifting up your friends, of giving them such passionate and deep support. How many times have you sent me a review, and left me feeling like I had done something worthy, and decent, because you took the time to really sit down and tell me how it made you feel. That is a gift few have, and it has made the difference between me having a nice day to me reading your comments and being as buzzed as if you had plugged me into a socket. You are an encourager, and you help others feel better about themselves and find their life's purpose. You are an incredible friend. It may not be a dream, per se, but it is truly something you have gifted to the world, and that's nothing to sneeze at.

[hbart.livejournal.com]

What a nice thing to say. I love how two people can look at the same situation and see it in totally different ways.

[toblass.livejournal.com]

Ok, it's time to get a goat. No, seriously! Then Trev won't have to mow the lawn anymore.

Your library is coming along very nicely, btw.

What's the next theatre production in the works?

And good luck with those query letters. Don't give up.

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

TheHubs™ would LOVE to get a goat for the lawn - he actually knows someone who rents his out for that very purpose!

He's wanting to audition for A Christmas Carol, and another one called The Foreigners, so he has lots of potential work coming up.

Thank you, sweetie. I won't give up.

[toblass.livejournal.com]

Ok...here's the new idea...

You guys need to invest in a goat. Open up a new business: Rent-a-Goat,,,or Goat-for-Hire.

Who needs a 9-5 job anyhow?

[dickgloucester.livejournal.com]

Best of luck with the letters. And rant all you want.

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Thank you. Query letters are the most intimidating thing for me. I'm crap at summarising.

[keladry_lupin]

Much sympathy for your Hubs. Making music is such a joy, but when you depend on others to make it with you, you've got to deal with them too, not just to music-making parts of them.

Best of luck with the letter writing and getting good results!

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Thank you!

TheHubs™ is a great musician, and a great actor, and I really wish he could do both. He just has to strike some kind of happy medium.

Thank you for the well-wishing - query letters are so intimidating. I wish I knew someone who could give me some pointers for how to write it.

[jenidralph.livejournal.com]

*throws fairy dust toward your query letters*

I'm trying to SED, too. We'll see how that goes. ;)

I hate what they did to Hubs. *shakes fist*

Nothing wrong with a good, healthy rant.

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

It's great to see you here, babe! Thank you for all the good wishes. I'm going to need all the good karma I can get.

[gelsey.livejournal.com]

It's your space and you can rant and vent all you need or want. Goodness knows I do! Hugs. I'm glad today is better. I think I might have to mow next week too.

Hope the fundraising goes well.

He should be able to do both though sometimes things conflict. Sadness.

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Thank you, babe. He's taking it very well and is a lot classier about it than me. I'm the one ranting; he's upset, but trying to rise above it.

[blueartemis07.livejournal.com]

Hopefully your struggles will find some way to bloom into something better.

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Thank you, sweetie. He's a good man, and I'm a big believer in what goes around comes around.

[ex-logospil.livejournal.com]

*cheering you on* ♥

~I might as well get international~

That's the spirit! Go big or go home, as they say! :-)

[teddyradiator.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much! I am so warmed and touched by all this outpouring of support - I can't help but believe it will keep my spirit soaring.

[tamlane.livejournal.com]

Lovely quote! If only I could settle on one dream. ;)

Here's hoping y'all accomplished all you wanted to today! It was gorgeous in the Upstate, wasn't it? I'm loving this unusually cool spring. My parents are at the beach, lucky ducks!