Wow. I agree with others that it sounds like this is all about her personal stresses, not about you. I think sometimes when people are close to blowing their top and are trying to hold it together in front of friends and family, it comes out at work because (perhaps subconsciously) they feel like they can get away with it there by pretending it's about some dumb spreadsheet or cleanup schedule or something. Also, co-workers may be less likely to yell back because they don't want to be unprofessional... which makes the whole thing pretty manipulative, if you think about it. (Again, not that I think she's doing it consciously, but it has the effect of manipulating people into not reacting because they don't want to rock the boat at work and "be the bad guy" as you say.)
You and the hubs really don't deserve to be treated this way! Whatever is going on with her, it is not your responsibility and it shouldn't disrupt everyone's ability to do their jobs. You'd be well within your rights to report her, but of course it's up to you what you feel is best and most likely to make your life easier, not harder. *hugs*
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Date: 2020-01-30 01:10 pm (UTC)You and the hubs really don't deserve to be treated this way! Whatever is going on with her, it is not your responsibility and it shouldn't disrupt everyone's ability to do their jobs. You'd be well within your rights to report her, but of course it's up to you what you feel is best and most likely to make your life easier, not harder. *hugs*