From an HR standpoint, you did exactly the right thing by contacting your supervisor. You're not trying to get her in trouble, but her behavior does need to be addressed. Standing on the outside and only seeing your point of view, IMO I would agree with you that she is acting out strangely due to the other GREAT stressors in her personal life. We don't know what is going on - it could be her daughter; maybe she and her husband had received some type of news that exacerbated their personal lives in a deep way - maybe an unexpected medical bill (which could be considerably high), maybe a prognosis that is very negative for her health. It's good to be empathetic towards this, which you've been and taken into consideration, but that does not excuse her behavior. Because laws are so strict now regarding workplace harassment, at some point someone in your organization will contact her to discuss this. It has to be done to protect the company from future litigation. She'll know eventually that you contacted the supervisor. However, don't let that add more stress to you and TheHubs, because you did the correct thing. A good HR professional will tell her not to confront you or TheHubs about this. Even though over time you've developed a personal relationship with her and her husband by working together, this all boils down to BUSINESS and won't be ignored. Remember - you did the right thing. I'm guessing she is trying to 'up her hours' to not only make up for lost work time over the holidays but to also help with a new unbudgeted or expected expense. Since there has already be a GoFundMe to help in the past, she's probably thinking there's no way anyone would reach out and help monetarily again and her family's future is bleak. I feel for her, I feel for you. Her anger seems very misdirected. When in doubt, treat people the way you want to be treated, with respect. However, respect does not include helping her out - for the time being, if it were me, I would 'distance' myself and only focus on my assignment.
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Date: 2020-01-30 03:07 am (UTC)Standing on the outside and only seeing your point of view, IMO I would agree with you that she is acting out strangely due to the other GREAT stressors in her personal life. We don't know what is going on - it could be her daughter; maybe she and her husband had received some type of news that exacerbated their personal lives in a deep way - maybe an unexpected medical bill (which could be considerably high), maybe a prognosis that is very negative for her health. It's good to be empathetic towards this, which you've been and taken into consideration, but that does not excuse her behavior.
Because laws are so strict now regarding workplace harassment, at some point someone in your organization will contact her to discuss this. It has to be done to protect the company from future litigation. She'll know eventually that you contacted the supervisor. However, don't let that add more stress to you and TheHubs, because you did the correct thing. A good HR professional will tell her not to confront you or TheHubs about this.
Even though over time you've developed a personal relationship with her and her husband by working together, this all boils down to BUSINESS and won't be ignored. Remember - you did the right thing.
I'm guessing she is trying to 'up her hours' to not only make up for lost work time over the holidays but to also help with a new unbudgeted or expected expense. Since there has already be a GoFundMe to help in the past, she's probably thinking there's no way anyone would reach out and help monetarily again and her family's future is bleak.
I feel for her, I feel for you. Her anger seems very misdirected.
When in doubt, treat people the way you want to be treated, with respect. However, respect does not include helping her out - for the time being, if it were me, I would 'distance' myself and only focus on my assignment.