Congratulations on the writing win! And that desk, because WOW is it ever gorgeous. Talliston House is new to me, too, so thank you for the introduction, Teddy!
I must say, one of my favorite things about taking down Christmas decorations with my family during my twin nieces' nap was their reaction upon waking up. They're a little over one and a half, and just becoming verbal, so they both wandered over to where the tree had stood, pointing and loudly declaring, "Uh-oh! Uh-oh!"
Phew, Teddy. Being a primary caretaker is hard work even if you don't know the person well, but when it's your partner whom you love... I think anyone on the planet can understand that fear can become debilitating in those circumstances. I don't know if you're familiar with the Dump Circle of Grieving (because of course you're grieving the certainty that you no longer have of your partner's wellbeing), but the basic principle has long served me well. When there's a crisis, the person at the center of the crisis is like the bullseye on the target. The people closest to them are on the next concentric circle outwards, and their friends are on the next level outwards, and so forth and so on. You dump onto the circle immediately outside yours, and you support the people on the circle (or bullseye) inside of your circle. Dump out; support in. I like that this acknowledges that everyone needs to dump, even if they're not the person at the center of the storm. It is HARD to be a carer during a health crisis, so feel free to dump out onto us!
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Date: 2020-01-07 03:09 am (UTC)I must say, one of my favorite things about taking down Christmas decorations with my family during my twin nieces' nap was their reaction upon waking up. They're a little over one and a half, and just becoming verbal, so they both wandered over to where the tree had stood, pointing and loudly declaring, "Uh-oh! Uh-oh!"
Phew, Teddy. Being a primary caretaker is hard work even if you don't know the person well, but when it's your partner whom you love... I think anyone on the planet can understand that fear can become debilitating in those circumstances. I don't know if you're familiar with the Dump Circle of Grieving (because of course you're grieving the certainty that you no longer have of your partner's wellbeing), but the basic principle has long served me well. When there's a crisis, the person at the center of the crisis is like the bullseye on the target. The people closest to them are on the next concentric circle outwards, and their friends are on the next level outwards, and so forth and so on. You dump onto the circle immediately outside yours, and you support the people on the circle (or bullseye) inside of your circle. Dump out; support in. I like that this acknowledges that everyone needs to dump, even if they're not the person at the center of the storm. It is HARD to be a carer during a health crisis, so feel free to dump out onto us!