I agree here. It really really sucks to get the brunt of it, but with things like she's dealing with unfortunately it just spews out, usually at the stupidest and most unimportant, small annoyance. I worked with a lady who was in a struggle with her adult daughter's drug addiction as well as trying to get custody of that daughter's kids, and being in court a lot, dealing with the kids' distress, etc. She would blow up randomly over the stupidest things. The best thing we could do was try not to take it personally and be as understanding as possible because most likely she realized after how awful it was (or possibly didn't realize how bad she was, because her mind was so on what was going on in her life). Hugs and more hugs.